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A Yearlong Dry Spell Taught Me I’ve Been Approaching Dating All Wrong

Anna Davies writes for SELF “I was waiting in line at a coffee shop when I felt a tap on my shoulder. I turned around to see a thirtysomething guy with reddish hair and glasses. He looked vaguely familiar. “Anna, right?” I nodded as I racked my brain, trying to figure out who he was. Was he someone I had worked with? A dad of one of my daughter’s classmates? Someone who lived in my building? “I’m Brian…we went on a few dates?” he asked. Now, it was his turn to look uncertain. I smiled, nodded, asked how he’d been. As he chatted, I deduced that he was a lawyer who had lived in the same Brooklyn neighborhood as me five years ago. He kept talking as if he knew me, asking about my writing career and even mentioning the name of one of my friends. I asked how he was, but really, all I wanted to know was who he was.”

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The words you should avoid using on your dating profile

Paisley Gilmore writes for Cosmopolitan ” Anyone who’s no stranger to online dating or the hell on Earth that is dating apps, will know there are certain things someone can write on their profile that just instantly turn you off. Dude posing with a chained-up tiger cub and a grin on his smug, sunburned face? Immediate nope. Someone posed next to four of their friends so you can’t figure out which one they actually are? Swipe left like the wind.”

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Best advice I ever got for dating a guy with kids: Be like a cat, not a dog

Lauri Mattenson writes for The LA Times “” ‘I know it’s against your nature,” she said,”but when it comes to his kids, be a cat, not a dog. You’re going to want to hug them and bond with them, but it’ll be better if you relax and hang back. Wait for them to come to you.”The advice came from my dear friend Jennifer, who has a stepfamily of her own and understands that it takes time and patience to blend and bond. I was nervous. Scared, in fact, of two girls, ages 8 and 10. I had already fallen in love with their father, so what would I do if they didn’t like me? What if I didn’t like them?”

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Looking for love? A poor credit score can make you less attractive in the dating scene

Michael Singletary writes for The Washington Post ” Forget the power of pheromones. Want to make yourself more attractive to a potential mate? Make sure you have a good credit score. Turns out that having a great credit history is sexy to some people. And an online dating site is betting that hooking people up — in part based on their credit scores –will score lots of users.”

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Cushioning, breadcrumbing or benching: the ​language of modern dating

Gavin Haynes writes for The Guardian “It’s a truism of modern dating that no one knows what they are doing anymore. As technology has exploded our capacity to find potential mates and take them to tapas bars with outsized wine glasses, we’ve all had to relearn our sexual “moves” from first principles, like stone age hunter-gatherers suddenly asked to perform credit default swaps. Yet what’s becoming apparent is that we all don’t know what we’re doing in remarkably consistent ways. These quirks – and the rules formulated by a panoply of breathless dating gurus who promise to help you navigate them – have required a new language. ”

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Why Dating Has Become So Hard

David Wygant writes for The Huffington Post “Everyone I seem to talk to has the same feeling: Dating has become so hard. It seems like nobody wants to commit anymore, and it seems to be a challenge every single step of the way. You can blame the dating apps. You can blame Tinder, and Bumble, and Hinge, and all the choices that people have. Because for the very, very first time in history, men and women have a ridiculous amount of choices available to them. At any given moment, a man or a woman can get on a dating app and get a potential date. See, everybody on the dating apps consistently talks about how much they hate the dating apps.”

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6 Dating Tips from Bartenders, Based on the Best and Worst Dates They’ve Witnessed

Maria Yagoda  writes for Food and Wine “By working at a traditional date venue, bartenders get an intimate peek into the miscommunications, awkward pauses and cute leg-touching that take place when two people convene for a drink in the hopes of connecting (or keeping the romance alive.) We spoke with bartenders—basically dating scholars—and asked them their tips for successful dates, based everything they’ve witnessed while on the job. ”

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How to make a winning first impression

Bella Gandhi reports for The Today Show “My mother always warned me that you never have a second chance to make a good first impression. One day, I finally asked her, “How do you make a good one?” She smiled, looked at me, and said, “Good question — I don’t know what to tell you except look nice and have good posture!” Being the nerd I was (and am), I set off to find the answer. The best research I could find came from a UCLA study that was done by psychologist Albert Mehrabian. It found 93 percent of how people form first impressions actually has nothing to do with words. It was about facial expression, appearance, level of interest shown and vocal tone.”

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Choosing the Right Online Dating Site

Betty Russell writes for The Good Men Project ” Getting back into the dating scene is not a walk in the park. It can be fantastically fun, interesting, rewarding, and exciting, but it can also be discouraging, time-consuming, frustrating, emotionally challenging, and, every now and then, a little ridiculous. Is it worth it? Absolutely. When it comes to plunging back into the pool, most people start with online dating. Is that your only option? Nope, but it would be a mistake not to do it. There are so many people out there who are single and searching, just like you. The internet is a wonderful resource for connecting single people and helping them find the person just right for them.”

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