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How To Know When You’re Ready To Start Dating Again After A Breakup

Kasandra Brabaw writes for Refinery29 “After a breakup, you’ll likely get more advice than you’d ever want. Depending on the type of friends and family you have, you might hear, “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Or, they might tell you to take time off and focus on yourself. Or, if your friends follow celeb trends, they’ll probably tell you to take up sculpting.”

Click to read more: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/tips-for-moving-on-after-a-breakup-dating-again

Dating Someone Older Is Complicated But Sometimes Totally Worth It, 6 People Say

Hannah Schneider writes for Elite Daily “Dating someone older than you can teach you a lot about life. It can help you better understand what it’s like to be a certain age, gain perspective on the current phase you’re in, or realize that you actually don’t like a large age gap when it comes to relationships. There’s a lot to consider about dating someone who’s older than you are, because your relationship may need some added communication to bridge the age gap. In case you were curious, here are six different perspectives from people who have experienced dating someone older.”

Click to read more: https://www.elitedaily.com/p/dating-someone-older-is-complicated-but-sometimes-totally-worth-it-6-people-say-11962652

How tech bros ruined dating for young people

Mary Kay Linge writes for The NY Post ” “I feel like I can’t be myself,” confesses Bree, a young woman from Plainfield, Ill. “You don’t want to seem like you care,” says Cam, slouched on a couch in Santa Cruz, Calif. “I hate it, I hate it,” sobs Cheyenne of Austin, Texas. “Everything, so much of who you are, is dependent on how you look.” “It exhausts me,” admits Alex. “Nothing good happens from Tinder,” agrees Kyle, Alex’s sometime boyfriend — even though the two New Yorkers met through the massively popular dating app.”

Click to read more: https://nypost.com/2018/09/08/how-tech-bros-ruined-dating-for-young-people/

He scammed $1.8 million from women he met online! How to protect yourself.

Scott Cohn reports for CNBC ” The dating game is increasingly played online. According to a study from the Pew Research Center, nearly 36 million Americans — roughly 15 percent of the adult population — have used an online dating site or mobile app, compared with just 3 percent a decade ago. Of those who have used the technology, 80 percent say it is a good way to meet people. But unlike other computer games, the risks in online dating are not just virtual. “You’re dealing with total strangers, and so I think that’s one of the reasons that it’s ripe for potential fraud,” Arizona Assistant Attorney General Scott Blake told CNBC’s “American Greed.”

Click to read more: https://www.cnbc.com/2018/08/30/he-scammed-1point8-million-from-women-he-met-online-how-to-protect-yourself.html

9 Dating Rules You Don’t Have To Follow, According To Love Experts

Amanda Chatel writes for Bustle ” Although shows like Sex and the City often made dating look exciting and fun, we sometimes make it harder and more complicated than it really needs to be. There are those of us who treat dating as if it’s a job hunt, those of us who treat the whole process as if it’s a job unto itself, and those of us who fear — gasp! — breaking dating “rules.” But it shouldn’t feel this way. For starters, dating isn’t a job and those rules? Who even invented these so-called “rules?” The only “rule” should be that you just be yourself and quit being beholden to rules. And even love experts agree.”

Click to read more: https://www.bustle.com/p/9-dating-rules-you-dont-have-to-follow-according-to-love-experts-10212970

Tired of Swiping Right, Some Singles Try Slow Dating

Kari Paul writes for The Wall Street Journal “Casey-Leigh Jordan has been on and off dating app Tinder for the past four years but recently deleted it in a fit of frustration. She had been talking to a man on the app and scheduled a time to meet up that day, but when she messaged him to confirm, he disappeared. “Dating sucks in New York,” says Ms. Jordan, a 31-year-old manager at a hair salon New York City. “There are so many options, and it can be really overwhelming.”

Click to read more: https://www.wsj.com/articles/tired-of-swiping-right-some-singles-try-slow-dating-1535468479

Here’s scientific proof that online dating sucks for women

Meera Jagannathan writes for the New York Post ” These are research findings to swipe left on. The “desirability” of women online daters peaks at age 18, according to a study recently published in the journal Science Advances. Men, meanwhile, only hit peak desirability at age 50. “Older women are less desirable, while older men are more so. For women, this pattern holds over the full range of ages on the site: The average woman’s desirability drops from the time she is 18 until she is 60,” wrote co-authors Elizabeth Bruch and M.E.J. Newman. “For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines.” The study, which examined nearly 200,000 users on a “popular, free online-dating service” from heterosexual dating markets in New York, Chicago, Boston and Seattle, determined desirability by the number of messages a user received over a month, as well as the desirability of the users sending those messages.”
Click to read more: https://nypost.com/2018/08/17/heres-scientific-proof-that-online-dating-sucks-for-women/

Why Dating Someone Older Isn’t Always Such a Bad Idea

Karley Sciortino writes for Vogue Magazine “When I was 25, I spent a year dating a man 20 years older than me. Before the Older Man, I’d never been in a relationship with someone of a significantly different age—older or younger—but I had spent my adolescence fantasizing about my teachers bending me over my lab station, so in a way this felt long overdue. The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible. People raise their eyebrows at relationships with a significant age gap: If you’re the older guy, you’re creepy and exploitative; if you’re the older woman, you’re both of those things plus delusional about your shelf life. And yet, it’s not an accident that the teacher is a sexual archetype: Power, and the transmission of knowledge, are inherently erotic. But there’s also an undeniable eroticism to youth (duh), hence why the schoolgirl/boy gets its own chapter in the book of pervy cliches. In an age-gap relationship, you’re trading in different currencies, but each holds its own value. And while sharing parallel life experiences with someone has its clear comforts, it’s not exactly jerk-off material. I wonder: What do we gain and lose from dating someone of a different generation?”

Click to read more: https://www.vogue.com/article/dating-someone-older-karley-sciortino

Everything You Know About Dating Is Probably Wrong

Hara Estroff Marano writes for Psychology Today “The search for love is one of the most important activities we engage in. Nothing expresses our humanity more than the need for deep connection. And few things matter more to our health and happiness—even our sense of self—than our choice of life partner. Yet so often the search itself is a bruising experience. What should be a trial-and-error process in which we learn as much about ourselves as we do about another person becomes an ordeal. Why is that? Almost everything we’ve learned about dating is wrong, contends psychotherapist Ken Page, author of Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. “Dating is an inner game,” he says, but instead of searching from the inside out, we’ve been taught to approach it from the outside in, to accommodate ourselves to the mating market by making ourselves into something we’re not. No wonder so many people are yearning for “authenticity.”
Click to read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/nation-wimps/201808/everything-you-know-about-dating-is-probably-wrong

How to Use Dating Apps Without Hurting Your Mental Health, According to Experts

Jaime Ducharme writes for TIME Magazine “At this point, there’s little dispute that dating apps work. Research has found that the quality of relationships that start online is not fundamentally different from those that start in person, and 59% of respondents to a 2015 Pew Research Center survey said dating apps and websites are “a good way to meet people.” Good as it may be for your love life, though, swiping isn’t always all fun and games. Here’s how dating apps may be affecting your mental health — and how to use them in a smarter way.

Click to read more: http://time.com/5356756/dating-apps-mental-health/

 

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